The taste of life

The taste of life
Recently, the store is not very busy, has made time to sit at the computer, listening to the melodious music, looking at the beautiful romantic picture, sometimes dancing keyboard, sometimes using the mouse as a tool, in the vast network of fascinating, Wang thoughts rambling fantasy, let the soul fly freely. At times a voiceless song compelling and a myriad of sometimes indulged in beautiful linger sometimes revel in friend space draw; sometimes lonely, two vast, silent.
In fact, man’s life is a long tour, sometimes one person alone, sometimes two people together, sometimes three, sometimes in groups, stop-and-go on the way, there have been new occupation, and old people left behind. UPS and downs along the way, bumpy road. The scenery on the way and some have saved to permanent memory, some collections of haste and neglect, careful thought, a long road, from small to large, from the largest to the old, from the old to the end is not easy. How many times confused don’t know where to go, how much time lost the direction could not be found, how many times bathed in the spring ahead, how much time basking in the Sun feel alive, counting the treasure in the heart of the landscape, yearning, sorrow, regret, more laughter, happiness, has moved. Everyone cherish the memory in heart, as treasured collections as a family valuables.
Inexorably, fast turn, inadvertently has gone through life of 60 years, 60 Pronto, after confusion and pain experienced vicissitudes and hardships, a lot of detours, a number of lessons learned and the experience gained, to understand and the strong, to understand the kindness and devotion. In many different variations and changes have taken place, I have sought in the past too much, as long as it is good, want everything, like everything, mind expansion, greed. After the test of time, have learned a lot of human reason, understand and calm, understand that the good life happy.
Some people feel that they have too little, always feeling depressed, frustrated and unhappy, in fact, is his “she” pursued too much and want to get something too much. Life impossible things and all, but there’s always someone, knowing that some things simply cannot be achieved, some of the problems no TA, some stories are never ending, and some pursue is always fantastic. However, these people still pursue, Mo Mo waiting, still empty fantasies, you say he “her” bitter suffering? You say he “she” were tired or not? Just let nature take its course, said a relative, to let it be, fun appetizer.
People are not happy, because caring too much and want to get something too much, the arguments will fight when, arguments should be promptly when they shouldn’t abdicate, to learn how to grasp the opportunity, easily. People always want to live high quality lives, always busy, fighting all day, was happy for a while, without painful life.
People are not satisfied, because vanity is too strong, too good face. The old saying “happy people enjoy life more”, but can have a few people in the world to achieve this State, world of wonders, people are always faced with too many temptations, it is impossible not to be tempted, impossible not to expect, not to fantasy, a lot of people in front of the lure of money, beauty, and so on, not taking himself lost.
People is not happiness, is because people not treasure, people face with day like day of life, face with increasingly good of conditions, always wants to to more high-level across, actually happiness is a look forward to, is a better heart of feel, as long as we treasure has of all, heart to found, heart to feel, you on will found you on life in happiness in, happiness on in you side.
People are tired, because think about it too much, all day carrying heavy ideological baggage, worry, emotional fluctuation, faltering, indecisive, tired heart will endanger your health, increase your troubles, you will feel out of breath, too. As long as you let go of thoughts, failing to spot people, you’ll be able to enjoy life in peace, in the plain taste of life.
People will worry about, because people have a good memory, filled with the mind, the mind of minds. Someone said: fool the most lovable, because “she” forget enmity in the world; he forgets “her” cynical; forget worldly fame and forget the intrigues of the world, he is “her” live in your own world, do whatever they want, and do anything. So, stupid cute.
Through the life seen are clouds, taste is bitter, aftertaste is sweet, experience is turbulent, is in compliance. Through the life of 60 years, bitter-sweet feelings, life on the road, unthreatening, you’re not going to break their feet; don’t worry, your heart cool you, God troubles do not think Chang; he is not greedy, you can be rich and healthy. Instead, you keep pushing, momentum, eventually you have to stumble.
On the stage in life, everyone is bursting out with different light, vanity, will you love being ass-kissing fool; you love money, will be bought by money; you love luxury, will be corrupted by the erosion you love sex, they will be confused by sex. Mind the gap, will be tainted by outside force. Heart complete their ideas, and never hear someone’s voice. Man is so contradictory, especially the poor, often standing at the crossroads hesitated, balked.
On the road of life, I chose neutral. Bucket does not and a man name (respecting gentleman’s virtue), competing for profits and not the villain. (Fear of bad people is not incompetent). Above everything else, and for you, as good as this, honest. Health Center, he is really confused. Let go, and let it be. Let it be easy to say, but hard to do, too much inequality makes you look strange, too much hard, rough road. Is the best way, like you would accept his “she”; don’t like you avoid him “she”; could not avoid the you change him “she”; can’t change you accept him “she”; can’t take you down into his “she”. In fact, the most difficult is to let go of. Really tired of life, and see how you can taste.
Life like a first song, tones level downs, Melody Cadence; life seemed a this book, wrote full has ups and downs, records with emotions; life and like a Council chess, full has layer Layer dangerous, also sub again has road road opportunities; life just is a article road, has water poor mountain do of rough, also has turn of smooth; life as same article River, sometimes nine ileum, sometimes blew out; life like a leaves, power Shi cocky, frustrated Shi as usual about.
Life is too short, vibrant life for 60 years, scenes of the past haunting you in front of you, Xian city wall, Zhouzhuang wupeng boat, fengcheng hanging Tower, Beijing’s courtyard houses. Youth wasted years, forgiving of indifferent Cheng Zhiyuan. Too much experience to my early age, transitional insight let me distinguish right from wrong. Through the ups and downs and frustrations, will have a calm and unhurried; experienced vicissitudes and hardships have atmosphere and open-minded. Cross hard and smile, calendar insurance proudly.
Now, think back, looked at the future, life is like a play. Standing on the stage of life, is the audience, playing themselves, not to call, you don’t know how wonderful you are, even if no one clapped, you gotta get up herself. Yesterday with the defeat and failure, no longer have to careful exploration, when is an experience, a process, as a result, one lesson. Today, both the good and the bad, you want to take the time to work, does not seek power, but not too, but to be ashamed of. Tomorrow, and not, as long as the hold good enough today. The life of a person, what is, instead of frowning, not smiling, winter not too cold, not too hot in summer, the rich poor, no money not ostentatious, leisure care, daily to find music, everything tasted until no white.
Life, a mere hundred years, day, have healed in a hurry life. Through the past, struggle sweat just wipe; looking back at the journey, winning smile is still spreading; hand in hand this clouds, flying high and move forward the future, exciting and constantly, back to nature. Too many wonderful world, life’s journey is too short. Buy back time change does not change back. Give up too much to stay, too many dreams to come true. Human life is a precious asset, is the experience cannot be bought with money. Day after day, year after year, in the coming years, as ever, I don’t fear difficult, mind calm and move forward.

A reasonable, lawful

A reasonable, lawful

The human desire and virtue: talking of love between people, and even read some of the articles, you will find many famous, often without hesitation by many people believe doubt in his head. Like I mentioned before the men and women who wish to save yan; food and sex are such bad odor, as well. For a while.
Never deny the instincts of human nature of Confucianism, but, his instinct is what to do with human nature? I thought has Analects in the Confucius of Word: Guide of to de, align of to ceremony; another a sentence is poems by. Mao sequence in the word: sent between love check between ceremony (was think is zixia by said); also has a sentence Sima Qian in records. Qu Yuan Jia Sheng biography in the by said of (country wind) lust and not kinky, (later evolution for people often said of gentleman lust and not Kinky). (So-called human desire of nature existent and the chengfenzhiyu of Neo-Confucianism, understood as self-control is more accurate. )
Renheli and moderation, is the core of Confucius. Confucius say, self-control yue ren; added that resolute Harper, Jen, (fan Chi asked
Yan, Confucius said: the kernel is) love (Jen is to be able to) Gong, letters, width, min and Hui; poverty and music, rich and ritual rhetoric,
Fresh kernels; people are heartless, such as what? I did not meet the benevolent and evil heartless; about Miss fresh; the doctrine of virtue, and at
Peace! Say, filial, which for the kernel and also said, Eli Lilly, and for you; not with ritual, is not feasible. Zi Gong
Say, benevolent, to stand, and to achieve talent. Xia said, erudite and Atsushi, cut past the question thinking, in which ren.
On, there are also a few words it is worth pondering. First, the master said: June, I think Chan. Secondly, Confucius said: revenue and rude
Dr, fearless and rude is fear. Third, the master said: see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil, and evil.

Thought is a very luxury thing

Thought is a very luxury thing

Usually love to read, also likes to think about problems. Some problem figured out, some scratching their heads. This is not surprising, a person living in the world, can’t figured out all the problems encountered, the old problem figured out, a new problem appeared again, there are always some problems don’t know. Terrible not figured out, but don’t want to, don’t know anything, parrot or pretends to know everything, as some artificially set box, not everyone thought it was privilege is not this article can offend some people.
Room, occasionally finds himself reading a few years ago, Huang Zhong of the idle thoughts of a book written by a page of notes, I feel a little mean. As for the notes back to the where, is unclear, perhaps as today when tidying up the room to throw away the book and threw away the note. As a little people live, is not what can be saved, after as long as it is not likely to use what can be thrown away, hat, handbag, footwear, books, supplies, ideas and personal traces of something instead of being burned in the future than he first destroyed can live in peace.
Here is the clip notes in the book:
As a thinker, Huang Zhong was awake. He is a rational scalpel, skilled plain historical original of dialectical thinking, big world stereotypes analysis clearly, plainly. He tells us how Washington makes the world first saw the “Jiang Shan sat jiangshan, humans can transcend logic. They fight for independence and freedom, rather than fighting for power and position. “” Must have a messianic salvation of mankind and the practice is outdated. “The promise is” some people consciously or unconsciously in some part should do the hype to describe selfless dedication failed, the result should have obligations to be skillfully converted into good deeds. This is actually a bad source of evil, is a desecration of morality. ”
Alexander I give to future generations of inspiration and lessons are “lies not in rulers who stored a number of new ideas in mind, can say how many new ideas in private, the key is to see what they can do, what they are willing to do. Not what people want them to do, but to force them to do anything. Therefore, a country in transition cannot only improve, must also have the promotion of Liberal, criticism and resistance to tyranny, social activity. ”
“Businessmen and capital is no homeland, where lucrative, where is their motherland. Their dream is to go to the place where you can make money make money. You have to persuade them to give up this trend, would be tantamount to telling them don’t care about bankruptcy! Where is his homeland, meaning is not very big, the key is where there is a sound investment environment. “Farming peoples and nomadic peoples of the most fundamental difference is that the agricultural people living on land, where there is where they land is their home, the land barren and they don’t leave. Nomadic herding cattle and sheep for a living, where there is fertile ground where grass is their home, where there is grass tent can take up immediately. Their understanding of the country are not the same.

Develop habits of find your own way

Develop habits of find your own way

Five ancestral temple there is a monk, who asked him what Zen is, he said: “there are two thieves: an old thief, a thief. Old thief is very old, and one day, his son asked him: “Daddy!” The older you, tell me another try! ‘ Poor old thief HD, agreed. In the evening old thief thief to a wealthy family, dug a hole into the room … Keys of the treasure pouch, a large cupboard locks open, opened the cupboard door and asked his son to get into the inside. His son got inside, he locked his locker and cried; thieves! A thief! ‘ He went. Rich heard that thieves, hurry up and search, search results, something not lost, the thief didn’t see, and we will continue to sleep. This time, when the cupboard was locked, what pride and prejudice does not know his father, I just want to how to escape. School-voice of the bitten dresses, while, during, Zhang Deng called the maid heard his wife, look at the clothes. Just open the Cabinet, the thieves jumped out, slapped the maid down, blow lamps, had escaped. Rich families detected and sent to attract. Catch up in the River, thieves having heard, a large stone thrown in the River, his round the way back. Arrived home and saw his father was drinking, he accused his father locked in the closet. His father asked him what comes out. After he said, old thief he stroked his beard with a smile, he said: for lack of food, “you don’t have to worry! ”
The aim is to teach people to find a way:
This is a Buddhist tradition of story telling in our daily lives, when we encounter difficulties, be sure to positive mental thinking to find ways to solve the problem. Even without difficulty or conscious training one’s own thinking. Mind only in the midst of endless campaigns, to overcome congestion, maintain and improve the flow of thought, through the regular conscious training, you can open, move about freely, both ways. In daily life, we can devise some object uses to train its own open as much as possible.

Advocating freedom, retain their independent personality

Advocating freedom, retain their independent personality
   In the minds of many Chinese people, adults playing children for granted, because the child is born of their own, their own thing their own right to beat him, and to let him listen to his words.
    Confucius “One” Thought for the destruction of the independent personality who also relatively deep, especially the “king called Chen Si Chen had died, the father of the child dead child had to die” mentality, makes a person totally lost its independent thinking and personality become Junfu private slave (or ideological slaves). An independent-minded people lost what is the difference with machines?
    Despite the legal protection of a person’s personality and independent legal status, but many Chinese people do not form the ideological consciousness of independence, I grew up listening to their parents, grew up listening to the teacher, and worked listen to the leadership of retired listen to the child. Most people only the right to life, the only books on CD, rather weak sense of independence.
    If you listen to someone else, if you only the right, the only book on CD, you can not have your own ideas, you have no ability to develop their own ideas.
    While modern China after shouting slogans so that we cultivate the spirit of innovation, but in fact impossible to make people develop innovative, early childhood education emphasis is listen to the party listening to parents, listening to the teacher, then enter the first grade, you have to examination efforts, do not follow the tutorial teaching outline design of the Ministry of Education or learning, you can not make a success examination, you will not be admitted to a good college, you will not have a good way. How, for thousands of years of “One” ideological restraints, and now unified national education, national creative spirit can cultivate it?
    It comes with its own independent-minded people, all the courage to go their own way and that they are not just a right, not just a book, not only on the people. Having its own independent thought and personality, his heart is free, because free, so what he think, his heart no restraint, no boundaries.
    You were born into this world, you see exactly the same people and you do in this world? Certainly not. So, everyone came to this world is always a mission to, you are not the parents of a vassal, not without material bodies ability to think independently, you’re a real person. Your thoughts life, you develop the energy of the world, hidden in your brain.
    One of the greatest tragedy is thought to be tied up, once ideologically rigid, closed, afraid to think, then that person is equal to ourselves sentenced to “death.” A person should be free thought, should be open; the so-called freedom is what you can think, do not think this is not immoral, this is not allowed, this is not impossible to achieve. To dare to break the old rules, standards, customary to think that such innovation possible. To continue to accept new things, people want to find ways to go, even if there is no condition to go out, even if you’re in jail being, your thoughts have to fly cage. Your thoughts should belong to the world.
    People usually have such thoughts defect, or always think their ideas are correct, or always think their ideas are incorrect; front too self, and is too self-esteem back. Too much ego and self-esteem are not desirable, we want to see for yourself, but also to see the others, the world of ideas that exist in the world.
    The world thought was indiscriminate, today revered as a good group of people here thought in those people there do not flat as a bad thought; tomorrow, maybe today is a good thought is bad thoughts. So we have to allow the existence of a wide variety of ideas, not the whole country, the whole human race accomplishing a religious-like. I think this is wrong!
    There is no absolute authority, there is no absolute truth, everything depends on your own to screening. Maybe today is the truth, and tomorrow may not be the truth. So our thinking is changing, changing is normal, not changing it to stiffen. Do not be afraid of their own people call a traitor thought, and do not be afraid of people call you thought no firm, no one is born able to grasp the truth and unswervingly advance toward the truth; it is completely nonsense. If someone says something that he is the truth, he is either a lie, or is a too “confident” neurotic.
    But many religious groups in order to achieve their own ends, to promote a kind of truth. I advocate that you do not become a certain kind of sense of believers. Even if I believe what he says makes sense, do not give up the right to their own independent thinking. If we put ourselves completely to God or an organization, it probably would have lost the meaning of life. Although you can share some of the status, wealth and power in this organization, but you as an independent thinker, the thought has been sentenced to death.
    Develop their own independent thinking is God mission entrusted to us. If a person does not produce a new idea, it is a waste for the future of mankind, but for modern humans feel the most normal, however, and most people are through life without thinking, humans have so unexamined After tens of thousands of years. Human society as Ebb Tide, thoughtful people like Panning gold Amoy, very few in the human world. Human history up to now, we regard themselves as labor to deal with the whole community is a little thinking man driven by 9 labor in operation with. We never thought that everyone become a thinking people, when our children were born, when they heard what the children like themselves and therefore not worry and be happy when you are doomed to stifle a new idea. You know, we made man is not intended to replicate itself, but to create a new humanity different from their own, new ideas.

Don’t loss your curiosity and thirst for knowledge

Don’t loss your curiosity and thirst for knowledge

University for a semester is coming to an end. There has been more than 10 years to delve into my old “College” when considering: have what they want at the age, do you still want to continue? For a country with “outdated” age for the elderly, then stop learning pace, perhaps belonging to quit when you are ahead, natural, happy.
Just a few days ago, I read an article written by a foreigner, it is this article so that I no longer hesitate, but chose to go on with “University” of life.

Windy Ye is a foreigner. He wrote that the youth is gone, not from two passages of the wrinkles start so that I could have touched.

He said: “today’s Europe, in economic terms has not run in China, middle-class incomes began less than domestic. However, in the field of culture, China is still a desert. Weak public awareness of learning, national culture and investment in education, compared to mean. While developed countries are still as ‘ developed ‘, perhaps, lies in the culture of precipitation, and relentless pursuit of spiritual preparation. Here, you learn not just useful and needed, but has become a habit, a way of life, or even a treat. “As Chinese grumble heard foreigners our country is” cultural desert “, as long as patriotism and national pride, I believe Members will not remain indifferent. Country, State, but as an individual, cannot be reconciled to “weak public awareness of learning” arbitrary. Starting from their own, from now on, should be the right choice. At least we can let go of “learning and awareness of people” to erase. This lost part of foreigners …

Another: “the purpose of education, access to knowledge, I believe is not only to build the framework to survive, or to fill their wallets. It also, allows us to have a more thorough understanding of this world, more diverse perspectives, and the inclusion of softer, so as to bring more joy and more emboldened and peaceful life. Because youth is gone, must not start with wrinkles, but the loss of curiosity and thirst for knowledge. “It seems that foreigners learn, especially among older study has a more profound than we are to the point of understanding. “Let the world have a more thorough understanding, more diverse perspectives, and the inclusion of softer, resulting in more pleasant and more peaceful life energy”, this remark is made much better! My philosophy on this unconditional acceptance. Learning in old age is not only happy but learn more far-reaching than past utilitarian purpose. The realization of this objective, sufficient to change our life. We could find no reason to give up studying. Because we are old, without curiosity and thirst for knowledge, and what different zombie!

Someone once said that this sentence: “no one can be young forever, but forever young.” Well said. I want to be forever young people are those who live and also learn of the people!

Don’t think of “celebrity” considered “famous”

Don’t think of “celebrity” considered “famous”

Mr LU Xun pointed out that our knowledge is limited, who are willing to listen to celebrity advice, but then comes the question: listen to acknowledged the good, or listen to the experts here? Answer seemed easy: they are fine. Naturally good; but my calendar after listening to two all sorts of advice, it seems there is quite alert. As is acknowledged, then more shallow, contrary to the experts.

Knowledgeable how shallow, meaning themselves, but many things contrary to the experts, and add a little saying;. Their perverse, not specifically contrary to telling them, was stopped in the name of the expert, to their special books. Revered celebrity in society, so think that celebrity is famous, but forgot which one he is named after learning or career. Celebrity worship say confused, forgot his name or what kind of learning, think that all are better than others, no talk, and swell up, in fact, experts in addition to his expertise, many insights are often not well-informed or common sense.

But the pernicious influence of celebrities, but more severe in China, it was the aftermath of the imperial examination. When scholars figured high in private sermons, and countries involved in the world, but if you receive Government degrees, and gain worldwide fame and success overnight. His history, you can scale, people can River to the end of the Qing dynasty, more schools, open coal mines, training the forces nouvelles, built ships, Chen Xinzheng and overseas visits. What was the result, is understandable.

This trouble has not, inter alia, 10% celebrity there is. All over the cheese. Phenomenon. Therefore, Mr LU Xun said. Since then, we should make a celebrity. And. Quote. Separately, not all celebrities are saying many of the famous, poured from the mouth of old … In other words, we should celebrities are, respectively, because Yes, two-door, for talk over his special, but be alert. Use your brain to think, rather than blindly follow experts and celebrities.

Lu Xun’s insight has guidance significance for us so far, in life, we have to

Can’t believe others unconditionally

Can’t believe others unconditionally
Mr. Lu Xun has long been a. I am in my blade heart. The oath, however, he is not the master Zhang pretty dry. He had said many times to Xu Guangping. Revolutionaries tell you to do, you had to obey, not allowed to ask, but I want to ask, to measure this value, so I can’t do the revolutionaries.
Lu Xun studied in Japan, Tokyo, it is Chinese exiles gathered, many against the Qing Dynasty political and military organizations, to be here as a base. Including a retrocession, the backbone is Zhejiang person, concentrate on the organization assassination and party uprising, in anti Qing organization, their attitude is very firmly. With Lu Xun at the time of the national salvation enthusiasm, he soon became active participants in the group activities, the speech will be good, the discussion will be good, often can see his eyes, Deng’s eyes. The relationship between he and guangfuhui especially, in the actual leader Tao Huanqing, is his close friends. Later, he joined the organization, his residence, also became a Tao Huanqing storage flag, logo and other important objects of the secret location. In the middle of his companions, his complex is often very intense. Guangfu association membership Xu Xiqi the assassination of an micro governor Ming en, results are coring Ming en janissaries laparotomy, news, he in Tokyo a rally on vehemently, suddenly heard a man at the side of coldness, big light its fire, from the man disgusted, not for a long time to release my arms.
Since participated in the recovery, it is necessary to accept the leader assigned, and a task fell on Lu Xun’s head, let him also like Xu Xilin, returned to the assassination of the Qing Dynasty a high-ranking officials. He was accepted. But before he left, he went to the man who had the job. If I was caught, beheaded, leaving my mother, who is responsible for the maintenance of her?. This is very disappointing, an assassin, how can this be full of worries? So the recovery will not go to recall one’s words, he. Lu Xun loved his mother. He was a real concern about her future life. But he went back and asked, but I’m afraid not just for this concern. Want to do Xu Xilin, like the assassin, need to have a special psychological quality, one of the key, is to be able to trust the collective, will be fully handed out. Lu Xun although patriotic enthusiasm, but not a willing to completely give yourself to others, the reason is very simple, he can’t unconditionally believe others. Even on the spur of the moment, the time is slightly longer, he mean for people to experience, for all sounding things habits of doubt, is bound to a collapse of his impulses, enable him to hesitate. Have a time in Tokyo, he witnessed an anti Qing Dynasty group leaders, in the hands of people were military attacks, distress may at any time at the moment, sitting and laughing in, seemed unconcerned, can not help but admire not to. , until many years later, but also to talk about people. In his state of mind, I am afraid that any man will be like him, to be from the hands of those who may have been killed, to re-examine the so-called sacrifice. The meaning and value of it.
Life, like everything, not to offend anyone. And with everyone, Hunchun is absolutely impossible. Because in life you can’t attend to each person’s face and interests, do you think earn. Others do not think so, don’t even appreciate are possible; at work. You can’t attend to the position of each individual, each person’s subjective feelings and needs are different, you have to make everyone satisfied, in fact, there will be people not satisfied.
What’s the result? There are two:
First, in order to exhaustive, but the exhausted themselves, and because they are afraid of each other are not satisfied, still have to be careful with how the wind blows, try to figure out his mind, this hard work, I’m afraid not neurasthenia.
Secondly, others find you want to exhaustive weakness, in soft soil deep excavation, the insatiable demand requirements, because they know that you don’t get angry, so you become everyone looked down on, benefit people, others do not appreciate the world super stupid big melon. Therefore, in order to. Let others find meaning. First of all. Make yourself satisfied..
In the face of the need to refuse, the most difficult to deal with is neither easy to promise, justice can not simply say. No Often by entreating people tend to have some very positive evaluation, so some people believes that if refuses a request, I’m afraid have a negative impact on to my value. So, refused or not in the choice between it is difficult to master. As a result, the original intention of the help is not high, but reluctantly agreed to the situation, the results of the situation is quite common.
In fact, who consider the image will suffer the reason is often an excuse, because of their own will not firm, and reluctantly agreed to qingtuo example common occurance. These people who will not be strong, often think that the request of the other party, is too harsh. And if the right to feel wrong, and it is difficult to fulfill their promises, and then change the mind to reject each other, it is obviously too late. Because, and so can not do the things promised, and then refused to give the impression that the more refined. To make up for the loss or to honor the promise. If this thing is limited to their own troubles, also called the unfortunate daiko, if because of this matter and with trust each other’s occurrence unpleasant, base to generate resentment, hostility, evolved into both parties in a relationship of confrontation and conflict, wouldn’t it be more harm than good?
Therefore, for the things that must be rejected, we must not hesitate to refuse. Of course, that is the beginning of a saying “no resolute and decisive. Indeed, wrong, however, don’t give up the right of refusal. Even if doing so would undermine others to their expectations, or favor at the expense of, why force yourself into my body figure it? After all, do not to do eventually. To make this point clear as soon as possible, then try to express to each other sincerely, is the real way to get along.
Maybe so, ask your people may temporarily show disappointment, but much better than halfway back. So promised to consider the request of the other side before, should first carefully figuring he ability whether and if the answer is negative, consider once stood up each other on their distrust feeling how. So even if it is difficult to achieve, but also will have the courage to refuse.
To refuse the request of others, is not a loss of face, so do not feel embarrassed to do this. The most important is to clear the ground will not be allowed to explain the reasons for the elimination of the other possible misunderstanding.

Don’t believe in lies

Don’t believe in lies
Liang Shiqiu teacher pointed out. Good literature, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, informal whether responses to the much during energy, always it is valuable for us to read the, Xie Li Dun of the school for scandal, is the case.
“There is such a story” in the school for scandal:
One night, Mrs Pang Tao home party, the conversation turned to take an examination of a Western breeds of sheep the difficulties in their reproductive Novus, here a young lady said. I know my dear cousin is some examples riddhi Xiapaiboer miss, she raise the a nova, kausia sheep, she gave birth to twins. What!. Dan Di Sai (the old woman you know she is deaf) shouted up,. Miss Piper gave birth to twins?. This error makes the people set the whole room roaring with laughter. However, the next morning everywhere rumors, within a few days of the town are believed, miss Xiapaiboer riddhi do students the fat of a man and a woman to a period, one can point out who the father is, two babies send upbringing in which farmhouse.
Such lies, fake people, some people spread, spreads the time exaggeration, said was full of vigour, listening to the people could not help but believe it or not, that Paiboer miss the birth of twins, this does not apply stirred up, be sure to clarify the details of its brilliant quxinyuren, twin girls and one boy, students who the father is, foster care in what place, should one VideoStudio, not is not easy to win the trust of the people, which is one of the characteristics of a lie. Another example of a woman’s age is one of the best permanent critics argued that information. If a woman have a recipe for eternal youth, I do not know how many people try to expose her real age, the essentials of a variety of research use on, not to a graceful woman morphologies become a banlaoxuniang is tired of melancholy meaning. If a generous woman bold, then there will be attached some suspicious fuming, with some nonsense formulas, said her past life of erosion and to the woman of the most diabolical libel is often comes from a woman.
“School” in a few rumors are rumors, Mrs. Mrs. microhand. To lie. Heart can, spread lies, also a despicable, and pretend to be dignified appearance generations rumor, reality enhanced detractors, especially hateful.
In the story the protagonist Peter Sir said God is my witness, madam, if they (Congress) think playing tricks on others is a glorious and in the garden steal prey as severe, and through a ‘survival glorious act’, I think many people will therefore thank them. “Siniwei said mrs.. Oh, Lord, sir Pete, you want to deprive us of our rights?. Sir Peter said yes, madam, after banning of any human seminal clanging of glory, in addition to the widow of qualified old virgin and disappointing. This is to laugh at, cannot pay attention to legislation to curb lies.
We have a saying Chinese Ukena stop wise. Looking to the ear of the wise, that is no longer survival. Unfortunately, after all, not wise.

Don’t be led by the nose.

Don’t be led by the nose.
Mr. Hu Shi is very fond of these two famous sayings. I often wonder, though every man is to love oneself to love others, but they attached the views of others but to pay attention to their own judgment.
“If you give your body to a stranger, you will feel angry. So, when you are upset with the kind of accidental abuse of others and the way to put their spirit to a casual encounter at any time, you do not feel ashamed of it?
Mr. Cai Yuanpei believes that for a scholar,. Most avoid is to know the theory of faction, serve as the golden rule to why problems can be according to his statement to resolve, the rest of the theory can be disregarded. This “keep a gentleman’s words, and exclude others. , in fact, it is the bad style of the old school.
And students do not coexist, various academic views free discussion, to enable students to is capable of representing a wide range of teachers in different schools view contact, is not limited to the point of view, the family said. To make the students have the freedom to choose.. This helps to cultivate the ability of students to study independently so that they may draw new meanings from the comparison of the different schools of thought, put forward original ideas of his own. So at that time, Peking University professor in a wide range of different schools of academic. Such as the history, ancient letter sent Chen Hanzhang, Huang Kan, a suspect Gu Pai Qian Xuantong, Hu Shi and the study, Cui Jinwen school, Liu Shi Pei of the classical school of literature, classical Chinese faction of Huang Kan, Liu Shipei, forest loss, vernacular School of Hu Shi, Chen Duxiu, Liu Bannong, Qian, Zhou Zuoren in critical interpretation of ancient texts, a disciple of Zhang Zhu Xizu, Huang Kan, island Yu algae, and other school Chen Jieshi, Chen Hanzhang, Joel Xu Lun in poetry and Takizawa master Tang Yin mo. Still yellow section of the Song Dynasty, and Han Chong Wei Kan, and so on. It is ancient and modern, new, old factions in a school. Different views from the faculty can also be sung. Meet the challenge. Hu Shi and Liang Shuming, such as the different views on Confucius, Cai Yuanpei asked them in each lesson, with a countermeasure.
Many famous scholars have stressed the importance of learning, not to be led by the nose.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu said. Read a literature book and do not understand the appreciation, exactly equal to the imperial, harem guards, Chengri price in women consorting happens to be a eunuch, although the chance, but no ability.
Mr Hu said. God is able to criticize, what people can not be criticized?.
He said in his speech to the graduates of the University of Peking University philosophy:
In a university, philosophy should be the least fashionable, the number should be at least. But the philosophy of the university has always been a lot of students, this is what I often wonder. I often think, this is a lot of philosophy students, after graduation, what should be done? What can I do?
Now you’re all going to graduate. What are you naturally thinking? What should we do? What can we do?.
According to my opinion, the purpose of a philosophy department should not teach you to die to read books on philosophy, also is not to teach you to accept the philosophy of a send sb.
“Zen Buddhist monk once said, ‘Damour East, just to find a man not to be tempted. I would like to borrow a phrase: the purpose of a professor of philosophy is to create a few people who are not to be tempted ”
What should you do? You should try to be a man of No.
Can you be a man who is not a man to be tempted?”
If you are not very confident, I have here a little magic, for you to do a self-defense tool. This little magic is just four words’ take the evidence to!.
“There is a little kit, filled with the usage of this small magic no evidence, can only be suspended and continuous; evidence is not enough, only can be hypothesis, can not be arbitrary must wait until later confirmed, just can be regarded as conclusive.
“Must be able to not be tempted, just can hope to guide others not to be tempted.
“You four years of research and experimental work must have taught you to think about, objective judgment, systematic reasoning and the habit of believing something. These are, or should be, a sign that a person is a college student.
Mr. Hu Shi pointed out that a mind trained people in to see a thing is critical and objective attitude, but also with appropriate knowledge for the incumbent. He does not allow the prejudice and the individual’s interests to influence his judgment, and the right and left his viewpoint. He’s always curious, but he’s not sure to believe in people. He did not rush to conclusions, but also not easy echoed the opinions of others, he would prefer to delay a period of time, has been wait until after he had plenty of time to examine the facts and evidence before a conclusion.
Altogether, a trained mind is for easy to fall into in prejudice, arbitrary and blind acceptance of tradition and authority of the trap, being wary and suspicious, a trained mind never is negative or destructive. He suspects that people are not like the reason why they are not like to think that all of the words are suspicious, and all the judgments are false.. He was skeptical, in order to believe in one thing. In order to build or rebuild faith based on stronger evidence and more sound reasoning.
Mr. Liang Shiqiu said. Mr. Hu has ten words, ‘not being led by the nose!’ time is to give people a blow and a shout. I can’t believe it. What other people say, it is a person, not a person, I have no idol in my mind.